Child custody cases have historically been thought to favor mothers. For fathers who are trying to navigate the world of child custody, making plans for success can be difficult.
The fact of the matter is that you have to think about what is best for your children when you are trying to decide what you are going to do. Some of the common things that parents have done in the past might actually work against your quest to make your children feel welcome, comfortable and happy in the current scheme of things.
Make your house a home
In the past, children packed bags to bring from one house to the other. Unfortunately, this can make your child feel like a visitor in your home. Instead of having your child bring clothing and toiletries from his or her mother’s house, get those things for your home. Give your child a space of his or her own to keep these items. While your child might still pack a bag for items like favorite toys or stuffed animals, having clothing, toothbrushes and other essentials ready to go at your house can make your house a home. Plus, it cuts down on what items have to be transported on exchange days.
Avoid labeling unnecessarily
It is easy to label your child’s things by which parent purchased the item, but you should’t do this. Instead, remember that the child’s belongings are his or hers. You can ask that the child leaves the things you bought at your home, but make sure that you don’t claim those items as your own. If your child does bring things to mom’s house, make sure that you aren’t making a big deal about ensuring they return to your home.
Enjoy the time you have with your child
When you don’t have much time with your child, it is easy to try to cram as much as possible into the time you do have. It is a good idea to want to make memories with your child. Just make sure that you don’t have so many activities planned that you or your child get stressed out and tired. Plan for downtime, such as watching movies at home or just enjoying a relaxing day in your pajamas.
In all things related to your children, you need to ensure that you are remaining in compliance with the child custody and child support orders. This can help you to remain as stress-free as possible throughout your time raising your children.